Soul Ties, Witchcraft, and the Narcissist: What Every Believer Needs to Know. A biblical perspective on spiritual and sexual manipulation
There is a kind of bondage that doesn't announce itself. It doesn't arrive with chains or threats. It comes dressed in desire, in flattery, in the feeling that you have finally been seen. By the time you realize something is wrong, you may feel as though a piece of your very soul belongs to someone else.
This is not an accident. For the narcissist who dabbles in what Scripture calls "the works of darkness," it is often the goal.
What Is Sex Magic?
Sex magic is the use of sexual energy - and often sexual acts themselves - as a vehicle for spiritual influence or control over another person. It appears in various occult traditions under different names: tantra, cords, bindings, soul ties that are intentionally manipulated, or simply "workings." The practitioner believes that the intimacy of a sexual encounter opens a uniquely powerful spiritual doorway into another person.
Whether you frame this theologically or psychologically, the outcome is the same: the victim feels inexplicably bound to their abuser long after the relationship has ended — sometimes for years.
The Word is not silent on this. From the "strange woman" of Proverbs (5:3–5, 7:21–27) who leads men to Sheol with smooth words and seductive power, to Paul's warning in 1 Corinthians 6:16 that sexual union creates a spiritual one-flesh bond, Scripture has always understood that sex is never merely physical.
The Narcissist as a Spiritual Predator
Not every narcissist practices witchcraft consciously. But many operate by the same spiritual principles - whether they know it or not.
Galatians 5:20 lists witchcraft (Greek: pharmakeia) among the works of the flesh. Manipulation, domination, and control — the core drives of narcissistic abuse — align with what the prophets consistently called "the spirit of Jezebel" (1 Kings 21; Revelation 2:20): a controlling spirit that uses seduction, intimidation, and false spiritual authority to dominate others.
Here is how this plays out practically:
Love bombing as an enchantment. The narcissist's initial pursuit feels supernatural -overwhelming attention, mirroring your values, speaking your language, and even mimicking your faith. This is the lure. It is designed to bypass your discernment.
Sexual intimacy as a legal claim. Once a sexual relationship is established, the narcissist (particularly one practicing intentional manipulation) treats it as leverage — spiritual, emotional, and psychological. You may find yourself returning to them against your own will and better judgment, feeling as though you have to.
Trauma bonding as a counterfeit covenant. The cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard creates a powerful neurological and spiritual hook. The victim becomes addicted to the highs and desperate to avoid the lows-a bondage that mimics and mocks genuine covenant love.
Breaking Free: A Spiritual and Practical Path
The good news - the Gospel news —is that no spiritual bondage is stronger than the blood of Yahshuah/Jesus.
1. Name what happened. Renounce any ungodly soul ties formed through sexual intimacy with this person. This is not shame-it is spiritual housekeeping. Pray specifically, naming the relationship and asking Yahuah to sever every cord that was not of Him.
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother..." (Genesis 2:24). What Elohim joins, He can also loose when the joining was false.
2. Renounce any agreements made in darkness. If you participated in any occult practices, even under pressure or unknowingly, repent and renounce them explicitly. The enemy looks for legal footholds (Ephesians 4:27). Close the door.
3. Seek prayer cover and community. Isolation is the narcissist's greatest tool. Healing happens in community. Find a Ruach-filled counselor or trusted prayer partner who understands spiritual warfare. James 5:16 is not decorative: confess to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed.
4. Guard your mind. Much of the ongoing control happens through rumination-replaying the relationship, fantasizing about reconciliation, and obsessing over what they're doing now. Take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5). This is not just a spiritual metaphor; it is practical cognitive warfare.
5. Expect a process. Deliverance can be instantaneous; healing usually is not. Give yourself grace. Yahuah, who began a good work in you, is faithful to complete it (Philippians 1:6).
If you or someone you love is recovering from narcissistic abuse, you are not alone, and you are not crazy. What you experienced was real — spiritually, emotionally, and neurologically. And there is a way through in Ha'Mashiach.
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